Life with No Regrets
What are the things that you regret in life?
Some of my regrets? Not taking piano lessons as a child, quitting violin in 8th grade, not going out for the tennis team in high school, not traveling more before I had children, working too much when my older children were little...
Most have to do with the things I was too timid to do or things I felt I didn't have the money to do. Fear held too much sway. I allowed myself to be limited. I rarely regret the things I did do, taking a risk--because invariably I learned along the way, even if through failure. I feel I've become a better person in the end.
The question I ask myself in decision making is this: "Will I regret not doing this later in life?" It helps push me when my cautious inner self says no. It urges me to keep going even when I'd rather sit still. It helps me be a better friend, I hope, because it reminds me to pick up the phone or write a letter.
I hope you're living your life with no regrets. It's never too late to start.
More later,
Traci
2 Comments:
It's an interesting question to ask. Personally I have been seeing a lot on this subject whether it be on TV or some newspaper article I'm reading and it has made me think about the things that I have wanted to do.
Some of them I have done - like being a DJ - that was fun! But if I had listened to some people I would have never taken the chance. Now the last station that I worked for fired most of the on-air staff and rather than pound the pavement looking for another DJ gig I just rather have my own radio station! I was toying with the idea of building one in the basement (or attic) but it is possible to have an Internet radio station so I'm going to try that.
As for where I am right now I don't have any regrets (isn't that a good thing to be able to say) and the things that I want to do I have them planned.
Regrets do not exist for me, at least not in the sense that I would actually change my experiences if I could turn back time.
The Dali Lama said that we should love our enemies more than our friends, for they are the ones who inspire us to action and help us create change.
Regrets is a way of viewing bad choices or painful experiences as something to change. I prefer to see those moments as catalysts for growth.
The idea of a perfect life, with no pain or woe, is to me, a vision of Hell itself.
How can one appreciate the beauty of the sunrise, without first experiencing the chill of the long dark night?
How can one enjoy a bountiful harvest without first knowing hunger?
How can we feel a sense of accomplishment without hard work and toil?
No. No regrets for me, thanks. I will keep the ones I have, and cherish them all.
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